Most of you with young kids are trying to understand how you are supposed to find all of this extra time to give yourself and your significant other. I get it; there is none. You are on the
go from dawn till dinner and then some. School, after school activities, breakfast, dinner … shit, we sometimes even forgot to pack their lunches!
We are all busy. And some calendars are fuller than others when it comes to squeezing in all this additional self and love endeavor. But if we remember that we are here to improve and
grow and become the best lover we can be to ourselves and partners, we must make room. It doesn’t need to be a significant chunk of time. Just enough to express your love.
With small kids, you have to pick and choose your windows. Sam and I had kids right out of the chute while we were still deep in Eros (In Love). We would sometimes only have three to five minutes to be romantic or playful before one of the kids rolled up crying with a load in their pants. You have to take those minutes wherever you can get them. As you get more settled into your relationship, it becomes easier to “not have time.” I get it; you are a slave to your schedules and the schedules of your kids. There is little room, and you are too tired or don’t feel like it.
I can only say this one way. Make time. If your relationship is not where you want it to be then, you must make time.